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Photographer Writes Op-Ed, Reflects on 451 Weddings


It’s no longer enough to take wedding pictures that show a bride and groom in love—dancing, whispering during dinner, playing with a nephew or niece. These days, wedding pictures are elaborate, photographer-contrived setups that show the newlyweds kissing in a wheat field (as if it were a natural act to go wheat-harvesting on one’s wedding day) or aboard an old-time fire engine.

Great read from a professional wedding photographer looking back over his career. He finds himself curious about the lives of the couples whose marriages he shot. This curiosity leads him to some interesting places and revelations such as the one above.

Read more via Remains of the Day | People & Politics | Washingtonian.

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Stacks of Love: A Spotify Playlist

Pulled a handful of gems from some assorted playlists I’ve used at events in 2012. Have a listen. Brings me back!

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Super Simple Stress-Free Wedding Planning

Stop me if any of this sounds familiar:

He wants an extra hour at the venue.

She wants her grandparents neighbors to attend.

He wants to keep costs under budget.

Her sister is insisting on performing the first dance song,

And so on and so on…

Couple are trying to balance THEIR wants and needs with the wants and needs of OTHER PEOPLE. It’s tough to do under the calmest conditions. Add in stress, expense, FUTURE IN-LAWS and you’re on a tough road to Conflict Town.

The days of letting the bride plan everything and the groom picking up the bill are over. Modern couples are collaborating during the entire wedding process. Some divide up tasks like a list of chores and conquer them separately. This division of labor can lead to it’s own set of problems. When the wrong choices are made it requires more work, more time, more conflict.

Talk to married couples and they’ll tell you the happiest they were during the planning process was when everything decided. Once the decisions are made they can focus on the enjoyment of anticipating the best party of their lives. Sounds great right?

Only one problem: Who decides?

Here is the simplest, most immediately effective way to avoid the conflict during the reception planning process. All it takes is this:

So simple you can even do it with one hand. (For intermediate to advanced users only.)

The 1 to 10 Scale

Sam and Kim are planning the menu, looking at the various elaborate dishes and their costs. She really wants to have fish, steak and veggie options for guests. He would be happier with just a buffet.

Instead of opening up the floor for the Great Food Debate of 2012 they calmly hold up their hands with outstretched fingers to say how important this decision is to them.

Sam holds up 7 fingers, Kim holds up 5. Sam wins. Buffet it is.

10 Must have.
9 Strong need.
8 Need.
7 Weak need.
6 Strong Want.
5 Want.
4 Mild want.
3 Vague interest.
2 Passing interest.
1 Faint preference.
0 No preference.

This method works, I promise. It worked for the planning of my own wedding. We used it to decidie on dozens of items, from cakes to guest lists to engagement photo settings. It was quick and didn’t lead to hard feelings. Now her sister’s first dance song rendition… that’s another story.


Save your “10s” for the thing you can’t possibly live without.

Like an excellent DJ. Just sayin’. 😀

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Trust the Professionals, Avoid the Meltdown

People go to school and get degrees to become a wedding planner. It is their full time job to create and orchestrate these important celebrations. You (bride) did not go to school for this. You had no training. … Wedding planning involves meetings, spreadsheets, planning, budgeting, presentations, interviews…sounds like a job to me.

via What to do when the wedding planning meltdown begins – Baltimore Sun.

Radioactive Meltdown in Progress

A sign no bride wants on her wedding day.

Read those testimonials and reviews carefully. Ask if the person you’re communicating with will be the one at your wedding. Demand in person interviews!

Meltdowns are avoidable with the right team working for you.

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Keira Knightley: “Wedding Planning Is Terrifying”


“We haven’t planned anything and it’s all quite terrifying and I sort of looked it up on the internet: ‘If you’re getting married, what should you do?'” she told show host Ellen DeGeneres. “I really don’t have a clue.”

via Keira Knightley Wedding Dress – Planning Is Terrifying – James Righton (Vogue.com UK).

Keira says, “I’m just not one of those girls that’s had the kind of fantasy wedding thing.” I’m glad she’s displaying some honesty about wedding planning. If she  is smart she will rely on dedicated and professional vendors to deliver a great wedding experience. Spolier alert: You should too!

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First Dances: 5 Ways to Skip the Embarrassment

#1: The Classic

An easy Google search of common first dance songs will give you a handful of overplayed and sentimental tunes. Chances are there is an underplayed but still classic sounding song from these same artists. Your professional DJ will help you find one of these buried gems.

#2: The Modern

Great romantic and meaningful music didn’t stop in 1950. There’s no rule that says you must dance to something your parents heard on the radio when they were growing up. Younger couples might feel comfortable dancing to something written during their lifetimes. More power to ’em.

#3: The Meaning

Here is where hiring an experienced and professional DJ pays off. I had clients that wanted to dance to their favorite artist Gotye. It didn’t occur to them that the lyric “Someone that I used to know” might not work for their first dance. We dug into Gotye’s catalog and found a great song that worked perfectly.

#4: The Steps

Learn the moves, the audience will go nuts. Besides the song choice you can really impress with some practice and choreography. Maybe you don’t have time to take a ballroom dancing class. I get it. But there’s this free gigantic online video resource that will teach you plenty of moves.

#5: The Tempo

It’s a wedding myth, like the 60 minute cocktail hour, that your first dance song must be a slow plod. Trust me when I say that the 3 minutes will go by a lot faster if you’re actually moving out there. Also I promise the photos will look much, much better. Photographer’s cameras love movement. Try not smiling while dancing to an uptempo meaningful song. Physically impossible!


Want more first dance tips? Drop me a line.

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Book Early, Book Often: Start planning your 2013 Wedding Now

Now is the time to hire vendors for your 2013 wedding reception. Actually, yesterday was. Or maybe the day before that. You get my point. If you haven’t already started looking I have some bad news for you.

Image of empty hotel

The best vendors in your area are already gone.

Top tier talent, whether it’s a DJ or a Photographer or Caterer, started filling in their calendars a solid 18 months prior to wedding “season.” The smart brides know this and will plan accordingly.

There is an added benefit here that you might not consider. The early your vendor team comes together the more time they have to coordinate with you.

Chalkboard 1+1=2

It’s a simple formula: More time = Less stress.

You should probably just close this window and start calling your priority list. Read reviews carefully. Ask to meet in person.

Here is your call to action: Schedule an interview with an experienced wedding professional today.

The alternative means you’ll get stuck with the stuff no one wants…

Book your wedding DJ early or get stuck with the leftovers. Yuck.

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A Bond Approved Wedding Accessory

Sometimes you need a tiny camera hidden in the wedding bouquet to verify without a shadow of doubt the groom REALLY says “I do.”

Only thing missing was the bouquet toss shot. Maybe you’ll try it at your wedding!

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The Latest Wedding Trend: Sibling Dances?

The Latest Wedding Trend: Sibling Dances?

“…more and more couples are adding Brother/Sister dances to their reception schedules. In most cases the Brother/Sister dance is used in lieu of a Father/Daughter dance when the father is deceased or not involved in the wedding. [The] key to making the dance successful (and not creepy) is careful song selection.”

What do you think? Is this something you might consider for your own wedding reception?

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